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Finding YOUR Truth From Others

 After Detox, Now What!

“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

Sometimes it seems almost impossible to find our personal truth, especially when addiction has tricked you into believing you need to have something so long that it takes away your ability to think clearly.

Addiction changes people and after detox the journey back to being your best self can evoke anger, distrust, insecurity, and defensiveness.

Exercise Steps To Allowing Others To Help US

 

  1.  Step out of your own head.  Become the watcher.  Become the investigator of your truth. Attempt to be nonjudgmental…it clouds your ability to think rationally. This is a skill that like any other can be mastered but like learning to walk when you are a baby, it takes time.
  2. What advice to many people give you?  List them.

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3.  Who are these people?   What is their connection with you?

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4.  List each person’s possible motivation for their advice: In other words, ‘what’s in it for them?’ Be open minded.  Truly, most people aren’t out to hurt you though when you are in the throws of criticism it hardly feels that way!

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5.  Tally up your findings rationally remember that you are an impartial investigator getting to YOUR truth:

A.  What is the recurrent message of an area that you need to tweak?

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B.  Walk away from this physically and emotionally for a while and think in the secret place in your heart if this has some value to your greater good? (Healing isn’t measured by how quickly it takes but how deeply you find your way back.)

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C.  How can you take this new found knowledge and make it work for you as your detox leads you to creating the best possible YOU?

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D.  Remember:  baby steps, no rush, feel the kindness of others’ advice to help not hurt you, and practice your new skill.

Love and light,

April Kirkwood

April Kirkwood LPC holds two masters and is presently working in the mental health focussing on both women's issues as well as addiction. Her desire is to help others take the present, healing the past, and creating a wonderful tomorrow. Focus: child trauma, holistic methodology, sexual molestation and harassment.

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