How Trauma Affects Adulthood

How Trauma Affects Adulthood

October 2, 2018 0 By April Kirkwood

She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.”
Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror


Hi,  my name is April of course and I am here to talk about drama drama drama.

Okay, you think there might be a connection between trauma and drama.  If you do, you’re right. The soul knows truth and it is urging you to rise above to what can’t be seen but what must be felt.

Some people just go left of centerand never truly hit the road running. Everything they do seems to receive a sort  of back lashe.  For those folks, growing up is hard.  There is  no blaring light on those who are being affect by trauma.  We just kind of screw up now and then and attribute it to everything but trauma.

I believe that many of us are really reacting to unresolved issues. Many we don’t even recall!

Are you one of them?

Trauma can happen any time in your life. We all remember the destruction of 911. Perhaps, you’re 28 years old and you’re there on the street and you watch as the Twin Towers come down.  Obviously that’s trauma. But did you know that trauma could be: bullying, cyberbullying, domestic violence, unexpected death in the family, being taken away from your main care taker,

abuse, neglect, not being loved in those very important developmental the first few years of life.  It is there that you learned that the world was either a good place or it isn’t by how you’re treated. You learned whether your caretakers can be depended on. They’re like God when you’re little. so if your family was going through a lot of chaos and dysfunction like most of us you think dysfunction now is the way life is.

You may subconsciously be on a cycle not living your optimum, not living your best life because of your past.ou are suffering.

I refer to it as the “then and they’re” affecting ‘the here and now.”

Statistics state that 70% of all Americans experience trauma.  I believe it’s greater than that! 

My definition of trauma is any time you feel overhweImed. Any time you get knocked on your keister so to speak.  You’re just out of it you, in disbelief, like the walking dead. 

The body gives us signals when we are suffering from trauma.

tachycardia is when your physical body.  In easy to understand terms, your heart rate is  beating too fast even when you’re at a resting pace.  It’s like sitting still and still feel your heart pounding.   The long run effects with tachycardia is that you can

honestly die of a heart attack, go into cardiac arrest in a resting state.

Another physical example of being the result of

trauma is sleeping patterns: you sleep too much or you don’t sleep enough. You can have crazy night terrors. You sweat at night. You don’t feel rested in the morning and that’s not because you’ve been partying all night. It’s because you went to bed

and you still feel very very shaky due to mental issues.

It’s not uncommon after trauma to numb out in the present but out of it. Therapists call it Disassociation. Dissociation is any of a wide array of experiences from mild detachment from immediate surroundings to more severe detachment from physical and emotional experiences. It’s kind of like daydreaming to avoid feelings of sorrow and is very personal. What it is is anything that unexplainably makes you edgy. Maybe it’s the sound of a voice, a place, a picture maybe; it’s a movie, an event, or a holiday. It’s something that resonates all the way back from our subconscious memories. 

Trauma victims have great fear and often suffer from anxiety which is the number one mental health issue this year beating out depression.

Holistically speaking, your body affects your mind. Spiritually speaking sleep is essential. Sleep is when your soul drifts off and does its spiritual work that’s as well as a time to eliminate toxins from the stresses of the day.

Speaking of stress, do you ever freak out and don’t know why?

Later you scratch your head asking yourself, “why did that affect me so much?”

I’m sure you remember someone that shuts down when certain events or topics come up.  It’s because that incident is a trigger to something the might not even remember. Research states that the first three or four years are not remembered by the age of seven.

On a spiritual level I think you remember everything. When we work together we will dig deep sharing your spiritual self to learn more about who you are and what we need to work on.

With your permission I’m gonna drag you out of the basement of

your self-loathing, your depression, and your fear and find out what happened to that little one. What has stopped you from moving forwards in your development mentally, spiritually, and physically. 

The number one thing that would tell you if you have trauma is you cannot self-regulate your behavior. An extreme example is the road-rage seen all too often on the news.

A guy gets out and kills somebody because they took his parking space at the 7-eleven. Mentally healthy people don’t do that.  Happy people don’t do heroin. We are in the no judgment space but we need to be honest.  If not now, when?

I just found out that a wonderful young man that used to work with me in the addiction field relapsed. Three days ago  he overdosed leaving two beautiful children without a father and more trauma.  This is a multi-generational happening. l I don’t want any of this to happen to you.  I get it. You want to

numb out because you can’t face the pain.

I invite you now to take this short trauma assessment. My trauma personal assessment for you alone to see how you rate on the scale

Trauma Assessment

You can make trauma a chapter not the story of your life.  Welcome. 
I’m proud of you.
I love you I praise you.
I appreciate you.
You are God’s child.
Great things happen to you.
Nothing can stop it.
So it is.




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