Hope Solo and the dichotomy of her life!
Last week, US national team goalkeeper Hope sent her fans a message asserting her innocence in a domestic violence assault cast that she faces in Washington state.
Solo posted a statement on her official Facebook page. She says “once all the facts come to light and the legal process is concluded, I am confident that I will be fully exonerated.”
She is presently charged with two misdemeanor counts of fourth-degree domestic violence from a June 21 altercation with her sister and 17-year-old nephew at a family gathering in Kirkland, Washington.
(And you thought your family holidays were a disaster!)
And to make matters worse, some nude photos were recently leaked of her on line.
(Dumb ass, if you put nudes out there in our world of social transparency; they are eventually going to show up.)
TIP: If you don’t want nudes out there – DON’T take nudes!
Back to poor little rich and famous Hope Solo.
If you read about her it appears on the outside that Hope Solo is the stunning face of soccer all over the world. She’s young (32), attractive, a body we would all die for, and hobnobs with the rich and famous. Even girls who don’t like her would have to say that she ‘made it’ in a career she loves. Hope has been blessed with endorsements to secure a comfortable future and some fun with the fame doing Dancing with the Stars, major magazines, and interviews with the likes of Ellen DeGeneres and Jimmy Fallon. She has a 2007 Olympic gold metal as a memoir of her passion and a list of other accolades in the soccer field. Although I am not a soccer fan so I am unable nor do I want to rattle a list of sport’s data I can explicitly state that she’s one of the best in her field and should be happier then a pig in a puddle of mud on a hot summer day.
But she’s not!
One explanation could be that fame of being one of the first athletic sex symbols has gone to her head. That doesn’t fly since she’s been the queen of soccer since she was a senior in high school leading her team to three consecutive league titles and a state championship so that card can’t be used to understand her complex and negative behavior of late.
So why is such an emotional train wreck in her personal life?
What does it say about you, me and our children?
- Childhood issues don’t just go away. (Hope’s trauma of being kidnapped by her father and her parent’s divorce is still raw though the bandage is in place.)
- Money and fame don’t give you inner peace of mind.
- We often project our anger at those we care the most for. (Hope’s rage turned on her sister and nephew.)
- Family is where most of our spiritual work needs done.
- What goes in, must come out-you can’t hide from your pain.
- Healing is a long process and we need to always monitor our slip ups.
Her trial is set for November 4, 2014. I wish her the same tenacity she has on the soccer field to do her inner work and find the joy in her personal life. It is possible to have it all.
April Kirkwood, M.Ed.
Author of Big Girls Do Cry