Staying Married For All Of The Right Reasons

Are you thinking about getting a divorce?


(Think long and hard before you call that attorney.)

You’re fed up with the lies, the problems, and the life has become just one continual fight after another.  It seems like years since you were both on the same side as a team.  The brick wall of painful memories seem too high to knock down and do you even want to?

Ladies, you’re not alone.  As a woman, which is the heart of the home; when the heart is broken, the walls can come tumbling down.

My husband had an affair, I stayed.  I had an affair, then I left even though he wanted to work it out. My ego had become a raging lunatic and I couldn’t see the truth, feel the love, and admit my wrong doings due in part to getting married at 19.  Way too young to NOT mess things up.

I was hurt.  I was sick of struggling financially.  I was tired thinking,“Is this all I’m ever going to have?”


HUGE for me and maybe for you too!

Here are the RIGHT reasons to keep trying:


  1. You have a history that is filled with more happy times then sad ones.
  2. He is the father of your children.
  3. He doesn’t hit you, has an addiction, or is mean to the kids.
  4. You are financially making it at least 75 percent of the time.
  5. He can still make you jealous.
  6. He can still make you laugh.
  7. The thought of him having sex with someone else drives you crazy.
  8. You have a support system to lean on through the down times.
  9. You love your home.
  10. You love your children.
  11. You believe in a spiritual supreme being and turn there for guidance.
  12. You’ve kind of grown up together.

Marriage is a long time.  Marriage is more of friendship between two souls arriving to a place where they each help other grow.  Some of that growth involves pain.  That’s the harsh truth.

In gambling terms,

if you are happy 30 out of 50 years, those are pretty good odds.

My ex husband died young. But, before he did, he asked to come home…I said YES of course.  We never got that chance.

Love always,


April of Course

April Kirkwood

About April Kirkwood

April Kirkwood LPC holds two masters and is presently working in the mental health focussing on both women’s issues as well as addiction. Her desire is to help others take the present, healing the past, and creating a wonderful tomorrow. Focus: child trauma, holistic methodology, sexual molestation and harassment.

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