I’m at Ground Zero and I can’t get out.”
I once knew a women who had been married three times…all of which ended badly in divorce. Luckily there were no children involved. But as she shared the gory details of her latest divorce I could see that she was struggling to make sense of the obvious pattern of failed relationships. She expressed in a depressing tone sipping a glass of wine:
“I have a master’s degree, I have a great job, I work out, look pretty good and have no baggage. What is going on with my love life?”
So, I sat with and let her get it out. It’s important to have a nonjudgmental friend who just sits and is present. But, I couldn’t help silently put my counselor hat and come to the conclusion why this adorable and warm woman couldn’t make a marriage work.
These Little tidbits lead me to her ground zero:
- She had an uncle nine years her senior who moved in with her when her Dad walked out.
- She spoke fondly of him and mentioned he was really into running and always watched what he ate.
- She met all three of the men she married at the gym.
Find out if you are stuck at GROUND ZERO!
Answer on five pieces of paper:
- Who was your childhood crush? Make a list of everything you remember about him. Write them down.
- Draw a simple chart with your last three serious relationships. How are they the same? How are they different? Write it down on a separate sheet of paper.
- Look at both pieces of paper and on a third sheet of paper write down how the crush and your love relationships are similar. (Don’t leave anything out.)
- Are these the qualities that you as a grown woman need to make a life time commitment or are they just illusions of your inner child?
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April of Course