Detox, Now What? Finding Your Truth

Wake up!

You haven’t been yourself in a very long time.

You have become a stranger to others but most importantly to yourself.  If you at loss where to go, since your wisdom and good judgment is a little rusty…..lean on what you have in front of you to wake you up.

Writing down and working on these conversations help in recovery to wake up the cognitive mind, practice reading and writing skills, as well as do some very important work on your way to your best self.

Finding the areas in your life that need fixing through the assistance of even those who might be considered your enemy.  Everyone has value in our lives.  Every piece of information can be used for your growth. The choice is yours.  Wake to the world and its value to be a friend to your recovery.

Jot down all it….for your eyes only…at least now!

  1.  Make a list of messages you heard or were told that are negative and next to that list the names of those people involved:

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2.  Look at the list, put a star next the beliefs, thoughts that you also believe in or do?

3. Do you believe what you’ve been told? If not, what do you believe?

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4.  Take those negative beliefs, rewrite it in the opposite with a positive view!

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Remember:  What you feel today, manifests your tomorrow!

 

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Finding YOUR Truth From Others

Three of After Detox, Now What!
Recap to:
Finding Your Truth Series in Others

 

“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”
― Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

Sometimes it seems almost impossible to find our personal truth, especially when addiction has tricked you into believing you need to have something so long that it takes away your ability to think clearly.

Addiction changes people and after detox the journey back to being your best self can evoke anger, distrust, insecurity, and defensiveness.

Exercise Steps To Allowing Others To Help US

 

  1.  Step out of your own head.  Become the watcher.  Become the investigator of your truth. Attempt to be nonjudgmental…it clouds your ability to think rationally. This is a skill that like any other can be mastered but like learning to walk when you are a baby, it takes time.
  2. What advice to many people give you?  List them.

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3.  Who are these people?   What is their connection with you?

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4.  List each person’s possible motivation for their advice: In other words, ‘what’s in it for them?’ Be open minded.  Truly, most people aren’t out to hurt you though when you are in the throws of criticism it hardly feels that way!

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5.  Tally up your findings rationally remember that you are an impartial investigator getting to YOUR truth:

A.  What is the recurrent message of an area that you need to tweak?

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B.  Walk away from this physically and emotionally for a while and think in the secret place in your heart if this has some value to your greater good? (Healing isn’t measured by how quickly it takes but how deeply you find your way back.)

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C.  How can you take this new found knowledge and make it work for you as your detox leads you to creating the best possible YOU?

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D.  Remember:  baby steps, no rush, feel the kindness of others’ advice to help not hurt you, and practice your new skill.

See you again,

April

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Are You An Addict?

                After Detox, Now What?

    Video One

       What is Addiction?

                 Summary of YouTube and Podcast One

Addiction is not a moral issues, a financial issue, an ethnic issue, or cultural issue.

Addiction is an epidemic crossing all religions, races, and financial boundaries.

I assert that addiction is a multi-layered very individualized disease with mental, physical, and spiritual elements. Addiction is progressive and fatal illness.

Addiction is a behavior that becomes more frequent until it becomes a significant part of life causing conflict in daily living negatively altering relationships, careers, families, health. Judgment is impaired as the primary goal of each day is now getting a drug of choice.

After detox is not the end, even if the body has now gone through withdrawal of the actual drug of choice there is much work to do on the road to recovery.

There are two types of Addiction
Substance and Behaviors

Substance Abuse

       DRUG NAME and WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS

Marijuana
Irritability
Trouble sleeping Decreased appetite Anxiety

Prescription Opioids
Restlessness
Muscle and bone pain Insomnia
Diarrhea
Vomiting
Cold ashes with goose bumps Leg movements
Prescription Sedatives & Tranquilizers
Seizures
Shakiness
Anxiety
Agitation
Insomnia
Overactive re exes
Increased heart rate, blood pressure, and temperature with sweating Hallucinations
Severe cravings

Prescription Stimulants
Depression Tiredness Sleep Problems
Steroids
Mood swings Tiredness Restlessness Loss of appetite Insomnia Lowered sex drive Depression

Tobacco
Irritability Attention problems Sleep problems Increased appetite

Behavior Addiction

Sex, porn, shopping, over eating, gambling, working, hoarding, stealing, skin picking, hair pulling, video games, internet

Effects of Behavior Addiction

Preoccupation with the behavior.
Diminished ability to control the behavior.
Building up a tolerance to the behavior so the behavior is needed more often or in greater intensity to get the desired gratification.
Experiencing withdrawal if the behavior is avoided or resisted.
Experiencing adverse psychological consequences, such as depression or anxiety symptoms, when the behavior is avoided or resisted.

(That is why no one has a right to judge or condemn anyone as the majority of the population is struggling with substance abuse issues.)

Questions to ask yourself:

 

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Do you get irritable when trying to cut back on that behavior?__________________________________________

Even when you try to control, stop, or reduce the behavior is it difficult to do so?______________________

What helps you relieve stress?____________________________________________________________________________
Do you find yourself concealing, hiding, or lying about what you do?____________________________________
Is this activity negatively affecting relationships, jobs, education?_______________________________________
Do you consistently ask others for financial help to get you out of trouble?_____________________________

What is your experience? Do you believe addiction is a brain disorder or a choice?
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Podcast

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The Key To Recovery

   After Detox,  Now What!                                          Video Two

                                   Summary of YouTube and Podcast Two

                             The Key to long term Recovery

Your house is on fire. The fire has become something you depend on that has got out of control but you still cling to it You have rejected all help up to this point.

You can put the fire out all at once or you can little by little move away understanding the risks involved in staying too long in a dangerous situation.

KEY: Free will gives you freedom to decide.

Perhaps in your darkest moments of your secret self you aren’t really sure if you are truly ready to give up your addiction, that’s fine. It’s more then fine because you know your truth and that is the best place to be.

Once you know how far you are ready today to move forward several things happen:

You honesty know where you stand.
You take responsibility for each minute of your days.
You can eliminate making up crazy excuses.
You can eliminate blaming others.
This knowledge can be very freeing to others in your life.

Personal Inventory:

  1. List people you know you need to move away from to achieve recovery: (ex. friends who use)____________________________________________________________________________________________

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2. List the places you need to not go to achieve recovery: (ex. The gas station where you meet your dealer)

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3. List things you need to let of: (ex. drug dealers numbers)

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Can you do this?

Can you pick just one to start with?

Baby steps lead to walking. Walking leads to running. Running leads to winning your race.

Your house doesn’t have to burn down!

 

 

PODCAST

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