Dec 31

Send A Message Of Support As Women Heal and Grow

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The Select Group we never asked to belong to but now we’re here and we aren’t going away!

It’s the tee shirt that will send the message with out uttering a word.  Move through airports, wear under blazers, walk through the grocery store, and go to the gym silently, elegantly supporting women, just like yourself, that have at least one time been made to feel uncomfortable in the workplace.

 

Together we are making history as the feminine spirit unites and reminds everyone everywhere…..we deserve to come to the table respected.

The boy’s club is going down.

Damn….that felt good to say!

NOTE:  Proceeds of each shirt purchased will go to help women who have been abused.

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Dec 16

What Women Can Do After The “METOO” Dust Settles

Another one bites the dust!

There is a movement of enormous proportion energizing a new vibe in history as never before. It’s as big as Women’s Suffrage; maybe bigger because it involves what goes on privately between men and women not just in public forums.

The coveted and protected male club of using power to get their ego stroked amongst other parts  are being driven out of town and for good reason.

Sexual Harassment, inappropriate propositioning, threats, stalking, molestation, rape and showing their genitals without provocation are just a few of terms that come to mind when I read the daily headlines of yet another man who has biten the dust.

In fact, I have not met one woman who hasn’t been put in some awkward situation involving an unwanted advances at least once in their life time.

Personally, it’s happened to me many times.  One of the most disheartening moments in my professional career was when I was a single mom with young kids at home to provide for.  Out of the blue, I lost a great on air radio position because I resisted the program director’s advances and so I was indirectly punished.  They said they were changing the station’s format.  Only my time slot was changed. And it wasn’t that I didn’t do well…in radio talk I took the book from a 3.1 to a 9.1 rating hike the first time out.

The worst part wasn’t losing the job.  It was that even thought most of the employees, half being women,  knew what was happening, they politely turned their heads as I was let go at a staff meeting because I didn’t sleep with him. It was disgusting. He would call while I was on the air propositioning me.  Everyone saw him do  and say things that were direct sexual comments and physical touching but they did nothing. The opportunity of a life time in a small town radio station became hell.

When I was asked abruptly to clean out my things, they literally put their heads down and wouldn’t even make eye contact.  This one woman is a pillar of the community advocating spirituality and the importance of service. One woman even said, “I’m proud of how cool you are handling this.”

But, now things are changing.  Women are bravely standing up and shouting: “I will not play your games ‘Mr. Big Shot at the top.’ I will no longer surcomb to vulgar displays of heinous behaviors and sexual connotations in order to hold on to a job security or a promotion.”  The ‘boys will be boys’ bull crap won’t fly anymore.

LET’S NOT FORGET:

the other heinous assaults on the minds, bodies, and souls of others both young and old. Those in positions of power like fathers, uncles and friends who molest young girls and boys; Sexual predators including priests, coaches, professors, teachers who groom the innocent to satiate their sick sexual addiction.

But with all facets of life, the world will keep turning and other events will take over the news. Life is like that…either moving forwards or backwards but always moving so:

What Women Can Do After The Dust Settles?

 

We must not, as strong healthy women, let this  down merely as a moment in history when hormonal women went crazy. The casting couch must be burnt and thrown away forever. The changes need to become the norm permanently engraved as a new morality setting a higher standard for each of us.

Together let US:

  • Assumption makes an ass of you and othersNever assume your non communications are equally understood by all. A  nervous giggle, the habit of crossing you leg in a skirt, is often misconstrued by self-absorbed, arrogant men as a gesture of approval for their obnoxious behavior.
  • Say No.  Strongly, swiftly, and with a sense of self empowerment  say NO without screaming then gracefully turn your backs and walk away with your head held up high.  Resentment, rationalization, and denial are  cancer physically, mentally, and spiritually.
  • Silence is not golden! Be ready to come to the aide of others who are at risk for sexual assault and be willing to be part of the effects – both good and bad. Women are powerful and we need to work with each other not against one another.
  • Two wrongs do not make a right. Act like a lady….never diminish yourself to another’s bad behavior. Govern  your actions with respect for yourself and others not by hate and rage. If you need to; take time to do the healing work.  Nothing said in haste usually benefits the one who said it.
  • Lean on one another. Find a support whether it be other females or a counselor…self care is key to moving forward.
  • It takes a village. Watch and care for those younger and more innocent.  Rescue them if you must!  You must!
  • One bad apple doesn’t spoil the whole bunch. Keep your heart pure, your mind wise, and know that there are really great guys out there.

Out of the dust grew a glowing power surrounding the feminine spirit endowing her with powers beyond measures lead by humility, kindness, and equality for all.

And so it is.

A sister,

April of Course

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jun 21

Finding YOUR Joy In The Chaos Of Religion

I think we get confused about religion and what life is supposed to be. The spiritual books can clutter it all in our consciousness….from being told we are born in darkness all the way to the idea that we actually create anything at all we desire. Both to me seem a bit exaggerated and depressing.
Why?

On some level each choice makes us feel guilty as hell.
If we are born sinners, what’s the use in fighting what is in us?  And, what did we do to deserve such a curse that is part of my being?
If we are creators of our own world, then some of us feel like really crappy creators only leading to another sort of guilt and self-loathing!
Instead I propose another way to get through the dust to dust, sinner repent, the sky is the limit chaos:

1.  We do come in form which means we are perfectly flawed.

2.  We chose to come here to work on those flaws.

3.  We orchestrated this not to cause pain, which is part of the process, but to learn and evolve into higher energy beings.

4.  We are free to create our reactions to life’s highs and lows which could can from every DSM diagnosis available.

5.  Or, we can live in a state of watchfulness, quiet, bliss thereby removing ourselves from the crazy emotions that cause us stress and confusion.

6.  That is the part of the creative choice.

7.  The rest is part of the plan, part of your decisions, part of living as co-creator of who you are and what you want to accomplish.

Blessings,

April of Course

PS:  No matter where you are, you are ok.  Own it, watch it, and ride it through.

 

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Jun 17

Hitting The Mark Of Good Parenting

The Greek word hamartia (ἁμαρτία) is usually translated as sin in the … or “to miss the target” which was also used in Old English archery. … The original word for sin simply means to be unaware, or unmindful, of the life you are.

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I was walking on the beach some years ago when a lady came up and stated, “You know there is someone behind you watching every move you make.”  I was a bit startled and the sun was brilliantly shining down so I squinted  and looked behind. Sure enough there was this adorable little girl imitating my walk, my gestures, my movements.  I gazed down and smiled at my daughter only three years old at the time not realizing how significant this stranger’s message was.

Now, years later with two grown children, I watch as they go out into the world trying to be brave and strong.  I admit it is hard for me to look at them as adults wondering where the years went. As I see them stumble, fall, and get up again, I see myself in their

I have made so many mistakes or have sinned – which to me- implies only that I was unaware and missed the mark.  If I am damned to a life of torment and hell, it is in relation to seeing what my mistakes have influenced by children.

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TEN Ugly Realities about Parenting

  1. What we do as young parents does influence our children’s adult lives.
  2. Adult kids fight to be completely opposite of their parents. It doesn’t work!
  3. No babies come with directions.
  4. Each child is completely unique from their siblings.
  5. Child learn by watching not by listening.
  6. Children fell the same as adults but cannot process information as adults.
  7. Some traits are inherited….perhaps from previous lives.
  8. Sad to say, they come predestined with lessons to learn and challenges to meet and there isn’t much we can do to deter them from their path.
  9. It is said that they choose us, not the other way around.  (I use that one all of the time when they are upset at me.)
  10. Love is the only healer.

Most importantly, remember that sin is only missing the mark, failing to understand due to ignorance not evil.  We can always  do better, be better and most importantly, children are quite forgiving.  They love their parents even when they should logically trade us in for better ones; they don’t.

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Most importantly, it’s never too late to get it right.

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Jun 15

The Deadly Mistake Of Romantic Coaching Sites

So you want a relationship?

You want to find a mate to share your life with?

It’s normal and natural to desire love.

The world is made by love, with love, for love.

But where do you go for help in this matter?

There are sites everywhere.

The tell you how to walk, talk, think, and a host of other techniques to help you find someone.  Hook someone.  Seduce Someone!

Does it work?

Yes.

So if it works why would I think following their advice is worst possible thing you can do in your life?

Several reasons the top I will list here for you to stop and think before you follow down the path of romantic conquests:

  • You are putting on a facade which is not you.
  • If you don’t know who you are, how in the heck will you ever know anyone else.
  • You are not giving someone the opportunity to find out just how marvelous you are.
  • Like Fake News – ‘Fake’ You always gets called out in the end.
  • You can’t discover what you want being an image for someone else. 
  • Modeling behavior that is unnatural will eventually be found out and you will look transparent, shallow, and send them running the other way.
  • You are not cultivating the best of yourself.
  • Likes attract likes- what are you acting like?
  • If you aren’t baring your true beautiful flawed self how will anyone get to really know you.
  • The weird thing is that we attract what we put forth:  shallow with shallow, sincere with sincere, players versus players.
  • More disappointments like this only perpetual loneliness, low self-esteem, and sorrow.

ADVICE:

Find your best self for your best life and I promise

love will come.

Life coaching is an option as well as journaling, creative outlets, reading, and being in nature is a great start.

In your world, get rid of anything that is fake…that means your views, actions, thoughts, persona.

Be true to you!

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